Plot Twist: How Can Embracing Change after Forty Lead to a Fresh Perspective on Life?

As life's journey unfolds, reaching the age of forty can feel like a wake-up call. This age often triggers thoughts about where we've been and where we're headed. Many people find themselves reflecting on their achievements and unfulfilled dreams as they approach this milestone. I know, that was the case for me. The last four years ignited a strong desire for change, and with it came the chance for a new outlook on life.

The Turning Point of Forty

I turned forty at the height of the pandemic. It was my worst birthday by far. I'd always envisioned rolling into my fortieth birthday with a nostalgic rollerskating rink party. Rocking out to 'Pour Some Sugar on Me' but instead I found myself alone. Pour some pity on me, am I right? The good news is.. the ultimate lows that came from those terrible years took me to this significant crossroads, the one I'm now at in life.

But let's back up, I think like many others, I felt the weight of societal expectations, I evaluated my career, my relationships, and my personal interests and I decided I needed to make some changes. My fiction writing was no longer empowering me. I was experiencing brain fog that left me unable to focus, let alone be creative. And without my zest for writing, I no longer had a reason to hop out of bed and race down the stairs in the morning. The thing is,I don't believe I'm alone. Studies show nearly 60% of people report wanting to make significant life changes upon reaching their fortieth birthday. This desire for change often arises from various life events such as children reaching new stages, career transitions, or personal losses. Check, check, and check.

If you're like me than maybe yo've also felt or are currently feeling stuck. I was immobilized with indifference and uncertainty. I live in a small town now so jumping back into my old sales life in the city was not an option, especially not with a daughter in grade school. I needed to be home for drop-off and pick-up. Who would hire me? I felt old, useless and frustrated. All I could do was trust that all of my soul searching was leading me somewhere. So I focused on where I could find joy and I delved deeper into the motivations behind my desire for change. What has finally emerged is a clearer path for moving forward. Thank goodness it did!

Here's what I did.

Reevaluation of Goals and Dreams

Reaching forty prompted me to rethink my personal goals. It was a liberating experience, and I had to let go of many old beliefs. I made a list. What are your skills? What are you afraid of? What's holding you back?

Take Action

Set New Goals

Consider what truly matters at this stage of life. Are the goals you set in your twenties and thirties still relevant? For example, if your goal was to climb the corporate ladder and you now find fulfillment in family, it might be time to adjust your targets. And vice versa, maybe you raised your kids and now you want to go back to school. It's never too late. Do it! Learn a new skill. Try something new.

Feeling lost?

Start by creating a list of what you want to accomplish. Break these goals down into short-term and long-term objectives. What are your finances like? Can you afford to take new courses or do you need to spend some time researching things on your own. Persoanlly, I'm a huge DIY girl. I teach myself new things all the time. Youtube is a beautiful and wonderous tool. If you invest in yourself, you're never really going to lose.

Exploring New Passions

Forty is an excellent time to explore interests that may have taken a back seat. Whether it’s learning a new instrument, taking a photography class, or writing a book, it's never too late to start something new. A 2021 survey found that individuals who take up new hobbies report a 40% increase in life satisfaction. Engaging in activities that excite you can reignite your passion for life and deepen your sense of self.

Strengthening Relationships

As you reach forty, assessing the quality of your relationships becomes paramount. I had to let go of toxic relationships that drained my energy. A 2019 study found that maintaining positive connections could improve mental well-being by up to 25%. It was a painful process but putting up boundaries helped me sleep again. In other cases, it was the opposite. I had to take down my walls and open up. Which also wasn't easy. I've always been a loaner and being vulnerable felt dramatic and unnatural. Starting this blog was my way of really opening up. I know now that if I want deeper relationships, I need to be vulnerable and real.

What holds you back? Have you held up the mirror and really taken accountability for where you're at in life.

Prioritizing Health and Well-Being

As you approach forty, health often shifts to the forefront of our priorities. Many start to recognize that physical and mental wellness is key to enjoying a fulfilling life. I was already a very fit person but my health scare required back surgery. The realization that my 'perfect health' was a gift and wouldn't always be there made me more aware of everything I still wanted to do and achieve. It also made me demand more of the others around me. I was no longer willing to be ignored or devalued as a middle-aged woman.

What can you do? Embrace a Healthier Lifestyle

Incorporate physical activity into your daily routine, whether it’s simple exercises, group fitness classes, or even enrolling in dance lessons. For example, studies show that just 30 minutes of moderate exercise a few times a week can greatly benefit both physical health and brain function. If you're looking for more tips and tricks then stay tuned, I'll be sharing lots of my life as a fitness competitor.

Embracing Change as a Challenge

Change can feel daunting, especially at a milestone age like forty. However, embracing it can be incredibly liberating.

Start by Shifting that Mindset

Adopt a positive view of change and try to see it as a chance for growth. This mindset willl help you navigate your new journey and day-by-day start to take action. Whether through subtle adjustments or more significant life decisions, every step matters.

New Beginnings at Forty

Transforming your life at forty can be full of both challenges and rewards. By embracing this vital period, reflecting on personal goals, and focusing on health and relationships, you can discover a fresh perspective that feels refreshing and empowering.

Change marks a beginning, revealing new possibilities that can lead to personal fulfillment. Taking active steps to embrace change enables anyone to redefine their life story, exploring what life has to offer in your forties and beyond.

It is never too late to start over. The opportunity to make meaningful changes is in your hands. Embarking on the journey of self-discovery could be one of the most rewarding adventures of your life.

Take the first step today and let the journey of transformation unfold!